Pieces of me in letters

In Sex and the City, a guy named Berger broke up with Carrie on a post-it put on her laptop. She was furious. Not because of the break up per se, but because it was written on a post-it.

Breaking up is not a good news (most of the times anyway…) But certainly there are good ways…  to break up with somebody. If one is brave to start the relationship, one should also be brave enough to end it in the most dignified way possible. Post-it, e-mails, letter, phone… generally speaking, are NOT one of them.

How one drops the news of breaking up speaks alot about one’s real personality. People who drops the news face to face and look at the other person’s eyes are those with big heart. Why? Because it shows that however the feelings that brought them together have faded or gone altogether… compasion and respect to everything they have shared with the other person still remain.

I’ve experienced breaking up quite a few times. The best one was done in my apartment and the whole process took about 30 minutes or so. Just us looking at each other eyes and talking why it was time end it. I’d lie if I said it didn’t hurt. But my ex and I are friends now. When we still lived in the same city, sometimes we met up for coffee, talked and laughed for hours. You see… that’s another thing about having a dignified break-up… a potential friendship in the future.

Although there is a good way to break up with somebody, I think I speak for everybody that breaking up is something that we all want to avoid. I think have had enough share of breaking up in my life… and I hope I will never have to experience it again.