Pieces of me in letters

A couple of years ago, a friend of mine was found in her room a few days after her death. We were all shocked and deeply sad. I met her and had a little chat with her in a train station just about a week before she died. She looked all fine to me. I could not believe that she passed away. But it did not really hit me until we all gathered to pray for her. There she was in front of me… cold and not moving. I couldn’t sleep that night… thinking that I also may die alone in my room. Apparently, I was not the only one thinking the same way. People started to check on others more often, make sure that everybody is fine from time to time. We care about each other that much.

But how much should we care about our friends? Is there such thing as caring too much? Or is it just another way to say that somebody is nosy?

Just about a week ago, I found out that I was somebody’s object of gossip. The gossip was horrible and could not be further from the truth. But that was not the worst part. I never really care about gossip because nobody knows me better than I do. I know myself best. The worst part was… the person who were gossiping me was a dear friend whom I really cared about. I have always known that she can be really nosy and quite often she says things without further thinking… but I never thought she would do that to me. I really did not see it coming. I hate to say this… but… she really is a Gossip Queen. Which is very ironic because at one point… she told me how much she hated it when people were gossiping her a few years back. Voila!
 
About a month ago, somebody was confronted the Gossip Queen in mailing list for a gossip she made. Her response was classic… it was NOT a gossip and… she did it out of caring. The line between caring and nosy is apparently very thin… and perhaps… almost none for a Gossip Queen.

There are so many private things that one chooses not to share with friends or with certain friends. Respecting this choice and whatever reason behind it is the best way to show that you care. The next choice would be talking about it with the person directly. NOT talking about it to a third person, and certainly NOT making a speculation about what is really going on. It just shows how unethical you are and obviously…. makes you a Gossip Queen. Oh well… unless one is comfortable with that label… fine by me